Seeking Female(s)

Looking to be more than a sperm donor

Sun, 29 Jan 2012 14:28:41 +0100

I am looking to be a loving dad and co-parent with someone in the immediate NY metro area / long Island. I am a 37 year-old single gay male of British and Italian descent. I am a NYC public school teacher in Brooklyn, healthy (eat right and exercise), drug and disease/std free and looking for the same in a preferably white female who is looking for a loving co-parent and interested in a joint custody arrangement. I own a 2 bedroom apartment in Freeport, Long Island with a loving and supportive family nearby.

I am looking for someone who is SERIOUS about doing this, as well as financially stable, financially responsible and financially and emotionally independent who can share all child-related expenses and share the joys of parenthood. If you fit that description, I'd love to hear from you.

Male Couple Seeking Co-Parent(s) in Pacific Northwest

Fri, 04 Nov 2011 22:56:24 +0100

My partner and I are looking to find a friendly, honest, financially secure and responsible female or female couple that is interested in forming a friendship and co-parenting situation here in the Pacific Northwest. We are a stable, caring couple that have currently been together for over 16 years. I am a 47 year-old caucasian male of Scottish, French Canadian and Swedish descent and would be the child's biological father. I am a well-traveled, healthy, intelligent, financially secure and creative person who works as a professional graphic and web design manager. I am also a dual citizen of both the US and UK, with extended family in both countries. My partner is an affectionate, generous and humorous 41 year-old hispanic male from a family of Mexican descent. We are both active, athletic and eager to enjoy the challenges and rewards of parenthood and would like to share that experience in a joint custody arrangement. We would love to hear from a female or female couple of any race or ethnicity who is serious about pursuing this. Look forward to hearing from you!

Seeking to Father Two Children USA or Europe

Mon, 08 Aug 2011 07:57:32 +0100

Hoping to father Two Children - US or Europe

City: NEW YORK / NARBONNE / US Coastal States / FRANCE / ITALY

Seeking to Father Two Children / De'sireux de devenir p`ere de deux enfants (trad.en bas).

ME:

6ft., brownish hair [was blond color when young - see pics - which show me in mid-20's - current ones available when you e-mail]; greenish [were once blue] eyes, 180lbs, 55 [act lot younger - never properly matured], bi/gay, Oxford graduate [I'm of Celtic parentage], usual 'arty' interests - cinema / theatre / galleries / travel, Mediterranean food and wines [but non-smoker]; not really sporty type but enjoy some mountain-biking (and always cycle/walk when in NYC); favourite novelists Iris Murdoch / early (later stuff too formulaic) Patricia Cornwell / Jose’ Saramago; musical preferences range from Monteverdi to Marc Almond and Philip Glass. Dry sense of humour. Currently on a kind of Sabbatical (previously worked in international organizations in legal advice / management fields). Have a small place in the South of France which would be good for summer holidays when the children are older. (Parents / all grandparents all lived to mid or late 80s - actually the old Mom is still going strong at 92 so no reason a priori why I shouldn't see children well into adulthood.) Currently living in the S. of France with occasional visits to US. Totally healthy. Not in a relationship. Somewhat nomadic ( for work purposes ) at the moment but have home bases in both Oxford, England, and the Languedoc, France.

YOU:

Positive outlook; intelligent; at least University education; probably working in some sort of creative and/or professional field, financially secure; could be single or in a relationship, but welcoming of my involvement in the children's upbringing and also definitely wanting at least two children [I have a view that children should grow up with at least one brother or sister.] You probably live either East or West Coast, or maybe Europe. You are open minded enough not to mind the idea of an 'older' father ( you might even see the advantages - there are some...)

THE IDEA:

You would be the custodial parent of the children but I would get to visit for at least a couple of months of the year and as they get older the children would come to stay with me for roughly half of school vacations [assuming they wanted to]. In other words a ‘friendly divorce’ type of arrangement. I would make sure they had a good time and you would get a rest from constant parenting. I would want a say in their education - I would especially want them to get a good musical and bilingual education from an early age. Obviously situations can change as time goes on and children's inclinations count for a lot but these are my broad-brush ideas. People say I relate well to children. Quite a few friends (seeing me with their children) have said 'you would make a good father'. It would be crucial that you and I would get on well together even though we didn't want to live together / be around one another for more than a couple of months of the year. Actual insemination would be with syringe (in case you were worried....) (or maybe through IUI if you prefer ?) .

Please e-mail me if you are at all interested to discuss this further, in complete confidence that I will exercise [and expect] total discretion and total confidentiality around these exchanges. Please write FULLY ie with as much detail about yourself and your 'project' as you read here about me and mine. Pix (to exchange) and full details about you / your ideas essential. [Thanks for reading so far. Wishing only good things to all of us aching to become parents......]

E-mail: jonblane@hotmail.com.

[Ad in French follows]:

Sujet: Mec ado [55 ans] recherche copine pour projet de coparentalite': Mec ado [55 ans],franco-britannique, [qui habite entre le Languedoc et Oxford ] recherche copine/s pour projet de coparentalité de deux enfants dans relation genre peut-être ‘divorce amicale’. Bonjour à toutes et à tous. Ou commencer ?? Je nourris depuis trop longtemps ce grand désir de devenir et être père de deux enfants [deux parce-que je pense que l’enfant a besoin d’un[e] petit[e] frère ou sœur pour grandir avec]. J’ai commencé à mettre des annonces il y a longtemps mais avec le travail [juriste / administrateur] je n’ai pas suivi le ‘projet’ avec assez d’assiduité. Maintenant je viens de quitter le travail pendant un ou deux ans ‘sabbatiques’ donc plus d’excuses / auto-exculpation….

Je suppose que – donné la mythique baguette magique - je recherche une femme genre ‘Annie Hall’ ?? – intello, sérieuse mais avec grand sens de l’humour, féminine, établie dans sa profession libérale - raisonnablement aisée point de vue finances, aimant les arts, le voyage, parlant plusieurs langues [ou du moins l’anglais – je voudrais que les enfants bénéficient d’une éducation bilangue si possible] et bien sûr beaucoup plus jeune que moi [mais ne voyant pas de problème dans la différence d’âge] ! [Prof de fac ? avocate ? cadre sup dans organisation internationale ?] Et avec résidence actuelle ou projetée pour l’avenir dans le Languedoc ou ailleurs dans le midi. [Ce dernier n'est gu`ere obligatoire - on parle de l'ide'ale.....]

Mes idées de comment cela pourrait marcher suivent:

En bref je n’envisage pas de garde alternée - plutôt je passerais du temps avec nos enfants / vous selon notre accord et leurs désirs; et dans l’avenir [ ?après l’âge de disons 7 ans ?] ils viendraient passer du temps avec moi, y compris la moitié des vacances scolaires….. Enfin ce sont des idées de base qui devraient se modifier le long du long projet et selon les circonstances futures qui ne sont pas toujours prévoyables………Mais voilà d’où je commence…….- on doit commencer quelque part……

Si mes idées vous disent quelque chose et vous vous intéressez à en discuter veuillez svp m’envoyer un courriel [à jonblane@hotmail.com ] plein d’infos sur vous / votre projet. Et des photos [ bien su^r à s’échanger]. S’il vous plaît pas de réponses de 5 lignes seulement. Discrétion totale assurée / attendue……. Merci d’avance………Et bonne chance à toutes / tous ....

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Seeking fun loving Female

Sat, 06 Aug 2011 21:43:22 +0100

Educated professional African American Male is seeking to raise a family. I reside in houston Tx with my partner of 10years. We are a fun loving easy going couple who you will find easy to get along with. I am in my early forty and in excellent shape. I am open to females of any race. I am willing to travel if I meet the right person. we can share phone numbers as well pictures via email. There are so much more to share; however I will reserve it until contacted via email. I am so ready to get started, so I will be anxiously waiting to hear form all those who are ready to start a family.

winston

Seeking Jewish Co-Parent(s)

Thu, 19 May 2011 05:52:05 +0100

I'm a gay, educated, intelligent, healthy male, with a strong family background. I've always wanted to have kids, but I don't want to be a single parent (and am currently single). As I approach 40, I realize that my original plan (to first find a perfect life partner, then start a family) might not pan out as expected, but that doesn't mean I want to permanently write-off parenthood.

Having recently learned about co-parenting, I thought I would look into this as an option. I am exploring the possibility of co-parenting with either a single gay (or bi or straight woman) or also possibly with a lesbian couple. Although I want to have a role in any child (or children) I might father, I am flexible as to the level of involvement/responsibility I would have depending on the situation/wishes of the mom(s).

I am very open-minded, I have a good job, and I'm a very easy person to deal with. I am Jewish, and the reason I stated I am seeking a Jewish co-parent has less to do with the actual ethnicity of the mom(s), but more out of a desire to raise a family with some degree of Jewish culture and faith (no, I am not Orthodox or super-religious or anything like that).

I'm healthy and live a healthy lifestyle. Good sense of humor, overall a well-balanced life (heck, if I were straight I'd be the typical "bring home to meet Mother" kind of guy) ;)

Since I would want to have at least some degree of regular involvement in the child(ren)'s life, I am only seeking people in the Southern California area (although I also spend part of the year in Ohio, so someone based there would not be a deal-breaker).

Thanks for reading!

-J.J.