Seeking Female(s)

36 Male Seeking Co-Parent(s) in CT

Sat, 21 Aug 2010 10:52:33 +0100

I am a single gay male, I'm 36, I am extremely jealous of all my friends because they all have children now and I love their kids to death. I want some so bad but I also want the mother to be in their lives as well. I don't smoke, I drink socially (which is almost never) because I work on the third shift as a Diagnostic Mechanic and Maintenance Technician. So I rarely get out but my party years are behind me anyway. I like to ride quads and dirt bikes, I like to hike Mountains, Love doing stuff with my friends kids like kick ball, wrestling, man-hunt, and letterboxing (if you haven't heard of that and like to hike I suggest trying it. http://www.letterboxing.org). I wakeboard, snowboard, ride quads, drive big 4x4's, and love the outdoors in general. I'm not noticeably gay, meaning I'm really straight acting. I'm Tattooed, I like Freestyle sports, and am in no way feminine.

I am seeking a lesbian or lesbian couple that would like to have at least two children and want there to be a father in their lives. I am currently supporting my parents and living with them but would like to find the right person to go in with on a house. That isn't a requisite its just an idea if there is someone out there that is looking for something similar. I guess what I'm trying to say is I would love to try the "Will N Grace" thing. i would want to stayh close to my family but am considering relocating for the right person. the right person should be 21-40, likes to stay active, preferably white, red hair, blue eyes, and fun to be around.

Seeking to Father Two Children USA or Europe

Sat, 07 Aug 2010 14:58:29 +0100

Hoping to father Two Children - US or Europe

City: NEW YORK / NARBONNE / US Coastal States / FRANCE / ITALY

Seeking to Father Two Children / De'sireux de devenir p`ere de deux enfants (trad.en bas).

ME:

6ft., brownish hair [was blond color when young - see pics - which show me in mid-20's - current ones available when you e-mail]; greenish [were once blue] eyes, 180lbs, 55 [act lot younger - never properly matured], bi/gay, Oxford graduate [I'm of Celtic parentage], usual 'arty' interests - cinema / theatre / galleries / travel, Mediterranean food and wines [but non-smoker]; not really sporty type but enjoy some mountain-biking (and always cycle/walk when in NYC); favourite novelists Iris Murdoch / early (later stuff too formulaic) Patricia Cornwell / Jose’ Saramago; musical preferences range from Monteverdi to Marc Almond and Philip Glass. Dry sense of humour. Currently on a kind of Sabbatical (previously worked in international organizations in legal advice / management fields). Have a small place in the South of France which would be good for summer holidays when the children are older. (Parents / all grandparents all lived to mid or late 80s - actually the old Mom is still going strong at 92 so no reason a priori why I shouldn't see children well into adulthood.) Currently living in the S. of France with occasional visits to US. Totally healthy. Not in a relationship. Somewhat nomadic ( for work purposes ) at the moment but have home bases in both Oxford, England, and the Languedoc, France.

YOU:

Positive outlook; intelligent; at least University education; probably working in some sort of creative and/or professional field, financially secure; could be single or in a relationship, but welcoming of my involvement in the children's upbringing and also definitely wanting at least two children [I have a view that children should grow up with at least one brother or sister.] You probably live either East or West Coast, or maybe Europe. You are open minded enough not to mind the idea of an 'older' father ( you might even see the advantages - there are some...)

THE IDEA:

You would be the custodial parent of the children but I would get to visit for at least a couple of months of the year and as they get older the children would come to stay with me for roughly half of school vacations [assuming they wanted to]. In other words a ‘friendly divorce’ type of arrangement. I would make sure they had a good time and you would get a rest from constant parenting. I would want a say in their education - I would especially want them to get a good musical and bilingual education from an early age. Obviously situations can change as time goes on and children's inclinations count for a lot but these are my broad-brush ideas. People say I relate well to children. Quite a few friends (seeing me with their children) have said 'you would make a good father'. It would be crucial that you and I would get on well together even though we didn't want to live together / be around one another for more than a couple of months of the year. Actual insemination would be with syringe (in case you were worried....) (or maybe through IUI if you prefer ?) .

Please e-mail me if you are at all interested to discuss this further, in complete confidence that I will exercise [and expect] total discretion and total confidentiality around these exchanges. Please write FULLY ie with as much detail about yourself and your 'project' as you read here about me and mine. Pix (to exchange) and full details about you / your ideas essential. [Thanks for reading so far. Wishing only good things to all of us aching to become parents......]

E-mail: jonblane@hotmail.com.

[Ad in French follows]:

Sujet: Mec ado [55 ans] recherche copine pour projet de coparentalite': Mec ado [55 ans],franco-britannique, [qui habite entre le Languedoc et Oxford ] recherche copine/s pour projet de coparentalité de deux enfants dans relation genre peut-être ‘divorce amicale’. Bonjour à toutes et à tous. Ou commencer ?? Je nourris depuis trop longtemps ce grand désir de devenir et être père de deux enfants [deux parce-que je pense que l’enfant a besoin d’un[e] petit[e] frère ou sœur pour grandir avec]. J’ai commencé à mettre des annonces il y a longtemps mais avec le travail [juriste / administrateur] je n’ai pas suivi le ‘projet’ avec assez d’assiduité. Maintenant je viens de quitter le travail pendant un ou deux ans ‘sabbatiques’ donc plus d’excuses / auto-exculpation….

Je suppose que – donné la mythique baguette magique - je recherche une femme genre ‘Annie Hall’ ?? – intello, sérieuse mais avec grand sens de l’humour, féminine, établie dans sa profession libérale - raisonnablement aisée point de vue finances, aimant les arts, le voyage, parlant plusieurs langues [ou du moins l’anglais – je voudrais que les enfants bénéficient d’une éducation bilangue si possible] et bien sûr beaucoup plus jeune que moi [mais ne voyant pas de problème dans la différence d’âge] ! [Prof de fac ? avocate ? cadre sup dans organisation internationale ?] Et avec résidence actuelle ou projetée pour l’avenir dans le Languedoc ou ailleurs dans le midi. [Ce dernier n'est gu`ere obligatoire - on parle de l'ide'ale.....]

Mes idées de comment cela pourrait marcher suivent:

En bref je n’envisage pas de garde alternée - plutôt je passerais du temps avec nos enfants / vous selon notre accord et leurs désirs; et dans l’avenir [ ?après l’âge de disons 7 ans ?] ils viendraient passer du temps avec moi, y compris la moitié des vacances scolaires….. Enfin ce sont des idées de base qui devraient se modifier le long du long projet et selon les circonstances futures qui ne sont pas toujours prévoyables………Mais voilà d’où je commence…….- on doit commencer quelque part……

Si mes idées vous disent quelque chose et vous vous intéressez à en discuter veuillez svp m’envoyer un courriel [à jonblane@hotmail.com ] plein d’infos sur vous / votre projet. Et des photos [ bien su^r à s’échanger]. S’il vous plaît pas de réponses de 5 lignes seulement. Discrétion totale assurée / attendue……. Merci d’avance………Et bonne chance à toutes / tous ....

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Looking to co-parent

Tue, 02 Mar 2010 04:35:47 +0100

I'm intelligent, attractive, 5'10", healthy and looking to be a father. I'm also highly educated and stable with an excellent job in Finance. My hobbies--from keeping active (bicycling, gym, tennis) to foreign films, museums and theater. I'm of German and Polish descent. I've spent years watching my nephews and nieces grow, and finally realized that I wanted it for myself. I know it'll be hard work, but the joys of having a child far surpass the hassles. I'm looking to do this through artificial insemination, and would like to make a connection and share this amazing experience--a woman between 34-42.

black academic

Sun, 28 Feb 2010 18:05:46 +0100

I have accomplished many things I set out to: graduate degrees, home ownership, a relatively well-paying job. But a deep heart-felt wish has eluded me : fatherhood. I have considered adoption but it is an unrealistic option for me since I am not in a commited relationship. Also, work demands thwart any possibiity of my being a full-time single father. I want to share the financial responsibility, have a physical presence, and the enduring joy of being a father. I am in the NorthEast: A slim, good-looking black man keen on meeting a woman who values friendship, respect , independen

A Handsome, Kind Gay Man Looking for Co-Parenting

Tue, 23 Feb 2010 20:44:39 +0100

I am a single gay Asian man, professor at a top research university, handsome, very kind and loving, looking for co-parenting possibilities with a woman in San Francisco-Bay area. Even though I have the option of becoming a biological father through surrogacy, I believe that the healthy development of a child requires the care of a mother.

I am a person who values commitment and family. I met my ex-partner at the beginning of graduate school. We had had a beautiful and monogamous relationship for 12 years. This relationship ended in 2006 for reasons beyond our control. We always wanted to have a family. After our divorce, my desire to become a parent takes precedence over finding a new partner. For this reason I decide to join this site.

I turn 41 this year, in very good physical shape. I am looking for a well-educated woman who desires to share the joy and responsibility of parenting. I have no preference in terms of your ethnic origin, but a good education is important. I hope we can realize our dreams together.

Pictures upon request.

Looking to be More Than a Sperm Donor

Sat, 24 Oct 2009 17:56:31 +0100

I am looking to be a loving dad and co-parent with someone in the immediate NY metro area / long Island. I am a 34 year-old single gay male of British and Italian descent. I am a NYC public school teacher in Brooklyn, healthy (eat right and exercise), drug and disease/std free and looking for the same in a white female who is looking for a loving co-parent and interested in a joint custody arrangement. I own a 2 bedroom apartment in Freeport, Long Island with a loving and supportive family nearby.

I am looking for someone who is financially stable, financially responsible and financially and emotionally independent who can evenly share all child-related expenses and share the joys of parenthood. If you fit that description, I'd love to hear from you.

Gay Couple in Atlanta

Fri, 18 Sep 2009 11:16:18 +0100

We would love to form a friendship with a lesbian or lesbian couple in hopes of establishing a co-parenting situation. I am 33 and will be the 'participating' father. My partner is 36. If you find interest in my posting feel free to reach out and say hello.

Thanks

Tentative Dad Dips Toe in the Water

Wed, 16 Sep 2009 03:08:36 +0100

Whew! Well, I've never placed an ad like this before, but here goes! I am a 39 year old gay man that has dreamt of being a dad for as long as I've known I was gay LOL. To many it may seem that the two are incongruous, but then again I never really did fit any of the typical stereotypes. Ultimately I am looking for a family of my own to share with a woman who feels like I do, and without losing my gay identity. I guess I envision a lesbian or lesbian couple first, but I am staying open minded.

I seek a coparent arrangement because I feel a child deserves both a Mom and Dad if possible. I have a big heart and have a lot of love to give, and that includes giving some to my future baby's Momma (again let me say that I am G-A-Y honey, hahaha!) I could never be in a situation where I feel cold and disconnected to the little one's Mommy. It's my job to be a good Daddy, and that means being a good guy to Mom as well!! I have a really great family! They're all emarkable actually...and they all would be beyond thrilled to welcome our new little one!!

I am in a 10 year relationship with a wonderful man. We share our home, our families, have a business together, and share our past, present, and future. We are excited about the prospect of enlarging our family of two, but I am really the one that feels the strongest calling to Fatherhood.

In this day and age of online instant gratification, it's hard to slow down and be patient and take the time to find the right person for this unique parenting partnership. I don't really know what to expect, and I don't really know exactly what I am looking for, but I hope that I will have the wisdom to know it when I find it :)

I'm interested in hearing from healthy, down to earth women of childbearing age who are well adjusted to life and have a deep seated desire to have a loving family with a man who wants that too. I have had some great responses here, but unfortunately they have all come from out of my area. I'm looking to be as much a part of my child's life as possible, so I am most interested in hearing from someone local to the central NJ or NYC area. I guess if you feel like you "need" a child but not baby's Dad around, then we probably aren't what each other is looking for, but best of luck to you anyway.

If anyone reading this has any suggestions for other places I should look, or other ideas or avenues to pursue, I would be very grateful to you for letting me know.

Thanks for reading! Just say hi if you want to, it doesn't mean either of us is committed to anything LOL :)

Ron